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  • My new red dress…

    My new red dress…

    A few songs inspired me to buy my new red dress…

    My husband Bill and I didn’t go out on Valentine’s Day last week. By the time Bill thought to make reservations somewhere, most of the tables at the better restaurants in San Antonio were booked. We could have gone to Dick’s Last Resort and that might have been a lot of fun, but somehow it seemed wrong to celebrate Valentine’s Day at a place with the word “Dick” in its name, even if Dick is a person and not a thing. I didn’t have anything decent to wear, anyway.

    The other night, I asked Facebook friends if I should buy a red dress. I got a lot of affirmative answers. One person reminded me of a song that was very popular in the 1980s and later used in commercials…


    Yes, it’s Chris De Burgh singing “The Lady In Red”. I have to admit, I really like this live version.

    Truth be told, I’ve never been a huge fan of this song. In fact, back in 1986, when it was a very popular number, I actually disliked “The Lady In Red” because it was always on the radio. But I remembered the breathtaking mood of Chris DeBurgh’s now classic song and decided to buy the dress, which arrived yesterday. The dress I bought was recently modeled by a college friend who has lost a lot of weight and inspires others to follow her lead. It looks really great on her.

    The same dress is now hanging in my closet. I tried it on last night, thinking the color was a little brighter than I would prefer. I’m not one to call a lot of attention to myself by what I’m wearing. I try to get attention with my larger than life personality. My husband likes it, but I’m not sure how often I’ll wear it. It’s pretty daring for someone like me.


    I’m not exactly 80s era Kelly LeBrock, though this song by Stevie Wonder is more to my liking than “The Lady In Red” is.

    Ultimately, I decided to buy my new red dress because most of the dresses I have for nights on the town are black. They are comfortable and practical, especially since they can be washed at home. They don’t wrinkle and show off my décolletage, which is probably the best part of my figure. I usually pair my black dresses with a pretty silk shawl. I decided my wardrobe could use more color. I needed “something in red”.


    I sort of identified with Lorrie Morgan’s song, “Something in Red”.

    Of course, I can’t think of red dresses without also thinking of Reba McEntire’s classic hit from 1990, “Fancy”…


    My new dress is red, but it’s not a “satin dancing dress with a split clean up to my hip”.

    But even when I was 18, I wasn’t one for wearing flashy red dresses. I have never “been nice to the gentlemen” for the sake of propelling myself into high society, either. If that were the case, I would probably be a lady who lunches rather than one who writes on music blogs and rarely wears makeup, let alone bright red dresses.

    I just decided I wanted a new red dress in my closet, complete with new red shoes. I’m glad I bought it, too. At least next year on Valentine’s Day, I’ll be prepared for a night out on the town, hopefully not at Dick’s Last Resort. On the other hand, maybe Dick’s Last Resort really is the perfect place for me.

    Have a nice weekend, everybody!

  • A review of The Kept Ones by Bunny DeBarge…

    A review of The Kept Ones by Bunny DeBarge…

    Todays’ post is a review of The Kept Ones, a book by Bunny DeBarge…

    For years, I wanted to purchase a copy of The Kept Ones, a book written by Etterline “Bunny” DeBarge of the 1980s family band DeBarge. Having been a child of the 1970s and 80s, I had been exposed to the music Bunny DeBarge made with her brothers, including Eldra “El” DeBarge, who had enjoyed a decent solo career for awhile, and James DeBarge, who was once married to Janet Jackson. I actually put this book on my Amazon.com wish list in 2008, but it was only recently that I bought it. That’s because until recently, it was only available from third party sellers, who wanted an exorbitant amount of money for the book.

    Having finished The Kept Ones last week, I can say that I’m glad I resisted the urge to pay a lot for this book. In fact, the $17 I did pay for it was too much. Yes, I was very curious about the DeBarge family, but The Kept Ones didn’t really satisfy my curiosity. Bunny DeBarge does write a bit about how she and her siblings got into the music business, but the main gist of the book is about Bunny’s faith in God, her dabbling in recreational drugs, and her abusive father. Moreover, it’s not at all a well-written book.

    Bunny DeBarge writes that she was the firstborn child of a white father and black mother. Robert and Etterline “Mama” DeBarge married in 1953, at a time when interracial relationships were still very taboo. Bunny DeBarge was born in Detroit, Michigan on March 15, 1955 and was soon followed by eight brothers and a sister. Aside from siring all those children with his wife, Robert DeBarge also had affairs. Bunny writes that she has two more siblings from another relationship her father had while he was still married to her mother. The DeBarge family originated in Detroit, but moved to Grand Rapids, Michigan when Bunny was a teenager.

    While the DeBarge children were blessed with musical talent and a loving mother who had a strong belief in God, they had a father who was constantly in trouble. Being biracial was difficult for the DeBarge children. Bunny says they felt like “mixed race freaks” with their French, black, and Cherokee heritage. Nevertheless, the children did attend their mother’s church and that is where Bunny first started singing. She later developed a talent for songwriting.

    In 1978, oldest son Robert “Bobby” DeBarge and a friend, Gregory Williams, left DeBarge to start a funk band called Switch. Switch had a hit song called “There’ll Never Be”, which started the DeBarge family on its musical journey. Tommy DeBarge later joined Switch, but the following year, both Bobby and Tommy DeBarge left Switch to mentor their siblings as they started their own band.


    Switch performs “There’ll Never Be” on Soul Train.


    DeBarge performs “I Like It” on Soul Train.

    If you were around in the early 80s, you know that DeBarge was successful. They had a string of hits, including “All This Love”…

    and “Rhythm Of The Night”…

    DeBarge enjoyed immense popularity, but the family was not without its personal problems. As a teenager, Bunny DeBarge was sexually molested and physically abused by her father. Her brothers abused drugs, as did Bunny, who got pregnant by a boyfriend and also dropped out of school in 1972 to marry her first husband. Bobby DeBarge later contracted AIDS from intravenous drug use and eventually succumbed to the disease. He also told Bunny that he was gay, which was a huge bombshell to this very religious family.

    I thought Bunny DeBarge’s story was mostly interesting, though despite her songwriting talent, I wasn’t at all impressed by the writing in The Kept Ones. There are a lot of typos, misspelled words, and awkward sentence constructions in this book. Bunny mixes up words like “cost” and “caused” and writes in a slang style that isn’t quite correct. She also writes of having the chance to attend Interlochen, a very prestigious music school and camp in Michigan. Because she was abusing drugs at the time, she didn’t end up going to Interlochen, which she spells more than once as “Interlockin”. I was sad for her that she didn’t get to go to Interlochen, though if she was spelling it repeatedly as “Interlockin”, she probably didn’t want to go anyway.

    In any case, The Kept Ones is worth reading if you are interested in learning about the DeBarge family. However, it’s not a well-written book and likely would have been much better had Bunny DeBarge hired an editor or a ghost writer. She and her brothers are without a doubt very talented musicians, though, and I hope there will be more music from them and their children in the years to come.

    So ends a review of The Kept Ones by Bunny DeBarge.

  • Happy Valentine’s Day!

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

    Just popping in to Pop Rock Nation to wish everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day!


    John Paul Young sings “Love Is In The Air”.

    There was a time when I routinely wore black on Valentine’s Day, but now that I have a loving husband who makes me eggs benedict and buys me chocolate and roses, I don’t mind it so much anymore. Last year at this time, I got into a ridiculous online spat with some woman from Canada who was upset because I posted this photo on Facebook.

    She said I had shamed all the single people on Valentine’s Day, who were lonely on the big made up greeting card “holiday”. In the interest of not hurting peoples’ feelings on Valentine’s Day, I didn’t share that photo on Facebook this year. However, I did share this one.

    In all seriousness, over the years, there have been some nice songs about Valentine’s Day. One that immediately pops into my head was done by James Taylor in 1988.


    This song really shows off James Taylor’s love of word play. Now that I have someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day with, I appreciate it more.

    But those who don’t have a Valentine might relate more to this classic James Taylor song…


    “Don’t Let Me Be Lonely Tonight” by Lizz Wright with David Sanborn on saxophone.

    As much as I love James Taylor’s original version of this song, I gotta give props to Lizz Wright and David Sanborn for this smoking hot and sensual cover. I also like an updated version James Taylor sang with the late Michael Brecker on sax. Check this out.


    I love this jazzy makeover with JT singing his old hit and joined by Brecker’s soulful sax.

    I hope everyone has a wonderful Valentine’s Day, or if you’re not enjoying V.D. this year, I hope your weekend is at least fun. Here in Texas, the weather is fine, but I know many of my friends are snowed in right now. That could lead to some serious Valentine’s lovemaking! Since my husband is home today, I’m going to cut today’s post a bit short so I can enjoy my V.D. too.